This quote most often credited to Dr. Seuss, encourages us to focus on the beautiful moments that we had with loved ones and not just the pain of losing them. In doing so, we may have a higher chance of ultimately healing. It is a choice that we can make to remember all the precious, funny, sweet moments that happened with our loved ones so that we can honor their life and always have them in our hearts. This becomes more meaningful during the holiday season. In this life, death and loss will sadly come in many forms whether parents, spouses, friends and relatives, and yes even beloved pets!
Of course, we WILL grieve the loss and should not suppress our grief or ignore our feelings, but we can be thankful for having experienced the relationships and cherish their memories. Focusing on what happened and all the beautiful years we had with that loved one is far healthier, and more likely going to create happiness in our hearts rather than focusing on the fact that it’s over. It is hard to do and hard to accept that until the Lord returns and those of us who have accepted His offer of salvation enter eternal life with Him, our earthly relationships will end at some point. It sounds cold but it is true.
It is a good idea after grieving to deliberately remember everything wonderful about your loved one. Let all the beautiful memories flood your heart and be thankful that the love you have for them and their love for you will never leave you. It is not easy as the loss of loved ones is one of the most painful experiences we can experience. And grieving is worse during the holidays because those special days are built around relationships. Family gatherings can never be the same, but they can be wonderful and delightful again differently.
For Christians, grief at holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas can cause intense emotional pain. Joy and celebration are contrasted with heartache but as Christians, we can receive comfort and hope in our sorrow through our faith in Jesus Christ. He himself experienced deep sorrow, particularly on the cross.
If you are challenged with sadness and grief over the holidays, acknowledge your feelings. You don’t need to suppress your grief. God understands and loves you. Spend time with Him through prayer and scripture to find comfort and keep the memory of your loved ones alive always! Finally, if necessary, reach out to a trusted spiritual advisor or organization for guidance and help. Grief is a process that takes time to heal, and the timing is different for different people.
Psalm 34:18, reminds us that, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit,” providing reassurance that God is with us in grief. Only God can provide the real healing that you need.